Do you allow that?
Absolutely! It’s your wedding ceremony, you tell me what you want! Choose your own vows, readings/poetry, prayers, blessings, music, etc.
We don’t want to be married in a church building. Is that okay?
Yes! Any dignified location is fine. I’ve done weddings in mansions, hotels, backyards, yachts, event centers, bed & breakfasts, Fort Snelling Memorial Chapel, etc. But there is one “location” I will refuse: skydiving - I’m afraid of heights!
I’m a divorced Roman Catholic. Do I need an annulment?
Unlike the Roman Church, Old Catholic Churches do not require an annulment for remarriage. In that respect, we are like the Orthodox Churches, who likewise do not require an annulment from a previous marriage.
Do you perform non-Catholic Weddings?
Absolutely! I offer inter-denominational, non-denominational and interfaith weddings also, regardless of religious affiliation or past mistakes. What matters to me is the love you have to offer one another and the willingness to have a new beginning in your life.
We want to meet you and talk about our ceremony.
Will there be a fee for that?
No charge for initial meeting.
I suggest the three of us meet in a restaurant like Perkins or a coffee place to chat and see if it's a "good fit." If we all feel good about one another, I will ask for a deposit to "chisel" your wedding date in my calendar. The deposit is not refundable. I will also ask for all of us to sign an Agreement, so we all know who is responsible for what details of the wedding (i.e. music, location, marriage license, etc.). One copy will be for me, the other copy for you. You may also mail the agreement and deposit to me if you both need time to think about it. I will show you a sample wedding ceremony book I can print and hand bind for you. I will loan you a copy of an excellent wedding planning book, "Weddings From the Heart" to help you note your selections, as well as posting your own unique electronic form on the internet to send me your ceremony selections. You may also use material not found in that book When you use the e-form, I will e-mail back to you the selections you have chosen for proofreading.
Do you require pre-marital counseling?
No, I do not require pre-marital counseling. I offer optional pre-marriage classes, which will qualify you for a discount off your wedding license when you apply at a Minnesota county office. Check my pre-marriage classes page.
What are your fees?
I ask for an honorarium of $450 for a weekend wedding and $290 for a weekday wedding. A weekday wedding is a simple ceremony without a rehearsal (but rather a quick "walk through" prior to the ceremony) and does not include a second follow-up meeting.
Holiday weddings (Memorial Day, Labor Day, July 4th, New Year's Eve, Veteran's Day, and President's Day) are $500. No weddings on Christmas Eve/Day or Thanksgiving Day.
If the wedding ceremony is outside the nine county metropolitan area, I ask for mileage re-embursement in addition to the honorarium. If your wedding/rehearsal location is outside the Twin Cities metro area, I ask for mileage both ways and if the wedding/rehearsal location is more than 45 minutes from my home, traveling time at $30 per hour both ways in addition to mileage.
If we decide to go with you, what will be the next step?
After I have received a deposit either at our meeting or by mail, I will post your own unique e-form on the Internet for your choice of selections for your ceremony (mostly checking boxes, unless you have special material, which you type into a template) and I will mail you a loaner copy of "Weddings from the Heart".
If you use the e-form, I will e-mail back to you the selections you have chosen for proofreading. You may add other selections as time progresses and make corrections. Again, I will e-mail back your additions and corrections for further proofreading. We may go back and forth like this as many times as necessary to make your ceremony text exactly the way you want it.
No "surprises" on your weddings day!
At rehearsal I will ask for the balance of my honorarium, the wedding license/marriage certificate, the loaned planning book, and payment for your personalized wedding ceremony book if you have ordered one.
(On your wedding day, there will be 1,001 small details to take care of at the last minute; the honorarium, the license and the loaned book will be three less details!)
Can you tell me more about the Wedding Ceremony Book you
offer as an option?
After the final proofreading of your wedding ceremony, I will do one of two things. If you have selected a wedding ceremony book on the e-form or paper planning sheet, I will print your ceremony book and bind it in a rich velour book material of your choice. If you do not want to have your own bound wedding ceremony book, I will use the text you have selected in an "all purpose" ritual book at the ceremony. The wedding ceremony book will be a lovely memento of your wedding. I will use it at your ceremony and you will keep it as a treasured reminder of your special day. The book is covered with French imported velour (velvet) book material and the pages are heavy classic linen paper with traditional glassine paper inserted facing the rich burgundy colored velour endpapers.
What about the rehearsal and wedding day?
I strongly recommend a rehearsal if you chose a weekend wedding. At the rehearsal I will have your wedding ceremony book, if you ordered one. Also at rehearsal, I will ask for your wedding license and loaned book (unless you have given them to me already), so that no one "forgets" on the wedding day. (Unfortunately I had to hold up a wedding once for the best man to get the wedding license at home!)
Whether you have a weekend or weekday wedding, I will arrive at your wedding about an hour before the ceremony to inquire of any last minute details, to help insure that other details are attended to (such as the wedding rings and the microphone, if there is one), to meet other members of you family and friends, and to be a "grounding presence" for both of you.
Dear Fr. Steve,
Thank you so much for the wonderful job you did with our wedding ceremony. You made it fun, kept it SHORT! (haha,
our guests loved that) and everything we wanted, just like you promised. It was great.
We wish you all the best in 2010 and if/when our friends are ready to tie the knot, rest assured you will be rcommended
by us! Take care,
Tyler and Andrea
Thank you again for the wonderful wedding ceremony you performed for us last August. We received so many compliments that "Father Steve was fabulous!" We were so lucky to have you officiate on our wedding day. Have a wonderful Christmas and Happy New Year 2009. Love, Melissa and Joe.
Thank you for making our wedding day so intimate and personable for us. Our ceremony was so beautiful. If I hear of any upcoming marriages, I will recommend your services without hesitation. So many of our guests told us it was the nicest ceremony they have ever been to. Kim and Phil
Thank you so much for presiding at our wedding ceremony. It was so nice and we had many, many compliments on it. We were so happy to find you, Fr. Steve, because we wanted our ceremony to be more than standing before a JP - we wanted a spiritual ceremony, but we were not willing to pursue annulments. You and the Old Catholic Church helped us fulfill that wish. Thank you very much! Dan and Lori
We wish to thank you for officiating our wedding this past September 13th, 2003. Words cannot express how blessed we felt to find you. During the planning process, we had researched many other wedding officiants in the Minneapolis/St. Paul area. I was raised Methodist and my husband was raised Catholic. We needed to find someone who would fit both our needs. With your Catholic background, you were indeed a perfect fit. No one else made us feel as comfortable and welcome as you did. Many of our guests were strong Catholics and had never been to a "blended" wedding before. I think they were skeptical and curious to see what it would be like. I cannot tell you how many compliments we received on the service. Everyone thought it was so unique and personable. It was like we knew you for years. The homily and blessings you gave were beautiful and so poetic. They felt as if they were written just for us. We greatly appreciated the times you met with us to discuss our future lives together. The counseling was helpful and nonjudgmental. We felt it was a good opportunity to discuss our relationship and focus on our strong points, as well as short comings. It also allowed us to discuss the logistics of the actual ceremony. Having never been married before, we needed guidance on how things should flow. Your suggestions were well thought out and worked well for us. We especially enjoyed the hand-bound wedding program you made us as a keepsake. Such a thoughtful gift! It will definitely be something we treasure for years to come. When we're old and grey, we will look through the pages and reflect on the perfect day you helped create. We would highly recommend your wedding services to anyone looking for a courteous and professional wedding officiant. Warm Regards, Tracee and Ken
"...and another thing - if I hear you made Meagan cry, you'll have ME to deal
with!"